You will know what you want better than I do, but here are some thoughts. Your toastmaster / master of ceremonies must be capable of doing the job you expect and should give the results you want. There are many of us out there to choose from and we come in a range of styles.
Some toastmasters have lots of impressive qualifications (usually on display) and are rigorous about ensuring formality and protocol. At one extreme, this procedural behaviour could clash with the informality you want and, in some eyes, toastmasters might seem ‘officious’ and ‘pompous’.
At the other end of the scale, a toastmaster could be over-casual and behave too much like a guest at a party.
These are two extremes, of course, and those of us wearing the red tailcoat will have our respective comfort zones within that spectrum. Even so, a good toastmaster will be able to adapt to give the right balance of formality and relaxed behaviour for your event.
I believe that I’m adaptable and sit somewhere around the middle of this scale. Phrases that brides have used about my style are: ‘keeps control in a relaxed and humorous way’, ‘solves problems if they occur without disturbing us’, ‘close attention to detail’, ‘helps to give every one of us an enjoyable and memorable day’.
Whatever you decide about your special day, I hope you get exactly what you have dreamed for it; if I can help or advise in any way, please get in touch. Thank you.
Fair point. The traditional approach to weddings won’t suit everyone; events designed to suit the style of the couple are becoming more and more popular. Very often they cost less too. A point to remember is that any celebration with family and friends will need organizing. Someone needs to make sure that things happen as they should and that people get to the right places and do the right things.
Your event will need someone in charge. It could be a family member or friend, but this critical job will take more time and effort than most people imagine. William Knightsmith started wearing the red tailcoat in 1894 so he would stand out as an MC and not be seen as a waiter. A good toastmaster / MC will take that control and manage your wedding event with or without a red tailcoat. It’s just a visible coat, not a straightjacket for formality or ‘poshness’.
So when we talk ‘weddings’ or ‘events’, we can also talk ‘costumes’.
This seems a strange idea to many tourists, especially those from the Far East, who seem to do much of their sightseeing through a camera lens – sometimes even backwards via ‘selfie’ views! This might give them great recordings of events – but comparatively little direct enjoyment of them.
I urge you (my wedding couples) to enjoy your special day moment by moment. Sure, you’ll want to capture memories via photos and movies but you should want them to be genuine memories; genuine enjoyment moments captured and recorded discreetly. You must strike a balance, you want formal ‘stick-in-a-book-memories’ (and their digital equivalents) to look back on, but you are there to enjoy your special day with your family and friends, you are not on a film shoot.
By the way, I’m not knocking photographers, I have good friends in that business and they add value to every occasion. They know that they are in an important – but supporting – role and work so they don’t overwhelm the main event.